If there are any allegations of substance abuse or use.

• Treatment programs: Oklahoma has numerous drug and alcohol rehab centers across the state, both inpatient and outpatient. Showing the judge that you're serious about getting and staying clean is key.

• Attend NA/AA and keep record.

Being in the legal system is stressful, especially when children are involved.

• Counseling: We could all dig a little deeper for our own mental health. Finding a counselor is often a huge step for people to better themselves and maintain a healthy mind and body.

If you have a mental health diagnosis.

• Medication: Sometimes counseling isn't enough, and that's okay. Mental illness often requires a combination of lifestyle changes and medication. Finding a doctor who can prescribe the right medication can be life changing. Actively staying on that medication is vital.

• Doctor visits: Weekly or bi-weekly doctor visits to prove the absence of unprescribed drugs and presence of prescribed ones.

If there are any underlying issues related to your case, address them.

• Classes: There are support groups across the state for substance abuse, trauma from past abuse, relationship problems, anxiety, depression, and more. Attending these classes is an excellent way to develop community and find support while investing in your overall well-being.

Last, but certainly not least: be kind. Commit to being the best version of yourself in hard times and good. Kindness in the toughest circumstances goes a long way.